BDSM Date

BDSMDate is a BDSM dating site that lures you in with the understanding that accessing the site is completely free, but is it everything that it is cracked up to be? Certainly the idea of “you get what you pay for” can be applied here, though it does have its perks that make it worth checking out at the very least.

Pros of BDSMDate

  • Absolutely free with no pestering attempts to get you to upgrade
  • Helpful search function hones in on users within 200 miles
  • Ability to upload photos and talk about yourself to get more profile hits

Cons of BDSMDate

  • No app or mobile version is available
  • Lots of distracting advertisements
  • Interface is not very user-friendly
  • Overwhelming visuals

Sign-up Process

The sign-up process is fairly straightforward, although some people find that even during the sign-up process, they see that the site is quite restrictive. This is because where some sites will allow you to get specific with your gender, BDSMDate only allows you to choose between male, female, trans and even couple for good measure. You can also only pick sub, Dom or switch as the role you take in the community which, again, can feel restrictive since some people don’t fall neatly into that umbrella term.

You can only choose from a limited number of fetishes to express your interest, which might not make it abundantly clear what you’re into and could end up wasting your time with profiles who are not compatible with you.

Using the Site

When using the site, the main way to contact people is through the search feature. You can use this not only to search for people who are compatible with you sexually, but you can also filter it by physical features such as height and weight. It will allow you to see people within 200 miles from you as well, making it well suited for those who are eventually hoping to perhaps take things real life. There is a “sponsor” box on some profiles where you can choose to pay for professional services, such as from a Dominatrix.

Price

BDSMDate is one of the few BDSM sites that is actually entirely free to use, and they don’t have any tiered upgrade options like so many other sites. This gives you uninhibited access to the site and all of its features without being stuck behind a pay wall. Of course, this means that the site has to pay for itself somehow, which means that there are many advertisements all over the page—something that can be annoying, distracting, flashy and overall quite unappealing.

Final Thoughts

Overall, BDSMDate seems to be quite restrictive. From the moment you sign up with only limited gender and sexuality options to the limited kink options to list as well, it seems to push everyone into a smaller box. Pair that with the fact that there is a largely disproportionate gender ratio, and it might not be the site that is really going to fulfill your needs.